The concept of Mahdavi lifestyle

Lifestyle is the combination of actions and thoughts that together makes the puzzle of our life as a whole.

The awaiting person should choose a lifestyle that makes his master smile when his deeds are presented to Imam Mahdi (PBUH). So, firstly it is necessary to be acquainted with the lifestyle that is approved by Imam Mahdi (PBUH) and then employ it in daily life carefully.

Mahdavi lifestyle is the same as the religious lifestyle; but who cares about Mahdism and the Reappearance, does these religious actions with the intension of satisfying his master. For example when he is training a child, he thinks about how to raise a child who is a helper to Imam Mahdi (PBUH). Or when he gives alms, his first intention is Imam Mahdi’s (PBUH) well-being.

In this section of Mahdavi Messages, we are looking to state the points that give our lives flavor of Imam Mahdi (PBUH).

 

The tableau of life

An awaiting person always heeds the issue that he’s awaiting the Reappearance and not the presence in his choices and finds Imam Mahdi (PBUH) present and an observant over his choices.

An awaiting person has a narration installed on the wall of his heart like a tableau and constantly thinks about it in various moments of his life and chooses his lifestyle based on this narration.

Musa ibn Sayyar says: “Imam Reza (PBUH) and I arrived in Tous. We heard whimpering… A few people were attending a funeral. I saw Imam Reza (PBUH) dismounted from his horse and approached the corpse. He lifted him and brought him close to himself. When the corpse was taken near the grave, Imam Reza (PBUH) came and stood above the corpse. He put his hand over the corpse’s chest and said: “I give you the good news that you’re in heaven. From now on, there is no fear for you.”

I asked: “Do you know this deceased?” He said: “Don’t you know that our Shiites’ deeds are presented to us every morning and night? Then if we see a flaw in their deeds, we would ask Allah for their forgiveness and if we see a good deed we would ask for his reward.”” (Bihar al-Anwar, v. 49)

 

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Socialization and joining the ties of relationship

Close relationship with family and relatives is one of the important means of growth and near approach to Allah. As Imam Reza (PBUH) says: “Allah ordered to piety and joining the ties of relationship. So everyone who doesn't socialize with relatives, doesn't observe piety.” (Al-Khisal, Shaikh Saduq, p. 156).

Therefore at the time many people don't care much about socializing with each other because of being too busy, the awaiting person, firstly loves his family and relatives sincerely, secondly always attempts to set a specific time for socializing with them in his program.

He/she indirectly fascinates others' hearts to Imam Mahdi (PBUH).

 

Gift giving

If we could develop even a little bit of the love and affection Imam Mahdi (PBUH) has for people in ourselves, we would sincerely love them, specially our relatives and family. One of the recommendations Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) has made about relatives and family is giving gifts to them. Of course it is important to notice that it doesn’t require a special occasion to give a present.

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said; “O family members! Give each other gift, because gift giving softens human’s heart.” (Mustadrek al-Wasa’il, v. 13, p. 205)

Acting upon this narration is very important for the awaiting person, specially, in the era that unfortunately most of the people give more importance to their friends than their family.

 

Lovely spouse

For the people who say: “How to make my spouse love Imam Mahdi (PBUH) …”

Those who believe in Imam Mahdi (PBUH) have the best role models, meaning Ahl al-Bayt, for the behavioural act towards their spouses and children. So, they don’t accept any other suggestion or basis.

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) told Imam Ali (PBUH) in a narration: “Serving family is an atonement for great sins and quenches the wrath of Allah and raises human’s rank. O Ali! Does not serve his family unless a man of truth and sincerity or a martyr or a man who Allah wants benefits of the world and hereafter for him.”  (Jame’a al-Akhbar, p. 103)

The awaiting person acts upon this narration with the intention of satisfying Imam Mahdi (PBUH) and serves his/her spouse with love because of this intention, and on the other hand, he/she fascinates his/her spouse’s heart to Imam Mahdi (PBUH).

 

Kissing Children

In Seerah of Ahl al-Bayt, showing affection to children is much recommended and if our religious people perform these recommendations, their children will never suffer from love deficiency and social disorders.

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), the Prophet of Kindness, said: “Anyone who kisses his/her child, Allah will write a reward for him/her” *1. He also said: “Kiss your children greatly, surely there is a heavenly rank for you for every kiss which would take 500 years to achieve.” *2.

Nowadays, with the development of science, the importance of showing affection to children, especially kissing them, in their healthy training has been clarified.

( 1- Usul al-Kafi, v. 6, p. 49. , 2- Rawzat-al-Wa’eizin, p. 369. )

 

Paying attention to the family on the day of Friday

Paying attention to the family is always favorable. However, it is particularly important to do good deeds to the family on Fridays, in order to make them notice the position of Fridays and create a sense of spirituality in them.

Concerning this, Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said, “Supply fruit or meat to your family on Fridays to make them glad about Friday”

(Usul al-Kafi, vol. 6, p. 299).

By acting upon this saying, Imam Mahdi’s (PBUH) helpers make Friday, which belongs to Imam Mahdi (PBUH), enjoyable to their families.

 

Dignifying children

The origin of many social problems and disorders that happen to our youths, is lack of personality and respect among family members. On the other hand, dignity and esteem are important factors of sound morals. Therefore besides showing love and affections to children, dignity and self-esteem must be observed towards them.

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) says about this matter: “Respect your children (dignify them) and train them well because it brings you forgiveness.” *1

The concern of the helpers of Imam Mahdi (PBUH) is to train children who are honorable and noble, because they wish to train a child who is a helper of Imam Mahdi (PBUH) too. We should have in mind that sometimes neglection of some seemingly small points, will result in big problems and disorders.

(1- Makarem al-Akhlaq, p. 222)

 

Priority for goodness is for daughters...

The habit of giving present to all, is agood habit.

But giving a gift to a family member is more superior and when you buy present for your family members, it is advised to prioritize the daughters.  in today's society, if we do not fulfill our children's (speciaily daughters) emotional needs, perhaps they try to fulfill those needs from other ways that are not appropriate.

Hence: it is necessary that parents, especially the fathers, should take special care of their daughter's demands and needs and one of which should be buying them gifts on different occasions that these gifts enhances love in between parents and the daughters.

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) says: “When you give presents, you should prioritize daughters over sons. Because any one who makes his daughter happy is like he who has released a slave from the descendants of ismael (PBUH)."

 ( Al-Amail by al-Saduq, p.672)

 

Preparing the marriage conditions for children

One of the child's rights on father is preparing his/her marriage’s conditions; a point many people neglect nowadays or consider other matters more important than this one.

Certainly this subject needs some basics, like: nurturing the child properly, preparing him/her for marriage through teaching life skills, prioritizing marriage in family’s financial affairs and make savings for child from teenage years.

 The belief of some fathers who say that: “I tried hard to achieve everything by myself and my child should try the same on his/her own as well” and do not provide any financial assistance and support to their children, is a belief totally contrary to religious instructions and Ahl Al-Bayt’s manner.

Prophet Mohammed (PBUH), the prophet of kindness, says: “The rights of a child over his/her father are three; like finding a spouse for him/her when getting mature.

 

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